In South Korea, respect is a victim of generation gap
UN poll sets off furor over fall of Confucian values
November 22, 2001|By Mark Magnier, Special to the Tribune. Mark Magnier is a staff writer for the Los Angeles Times, a Tribune newspaper.
SEOUL — Chung Hae Son, a 59-year-old manager at a distribution company, sees evidence of South Korea's loss of Confucian values every time he walks out his door.
Junior associates address him with familiar rather than honorific language. Teenagers laze in the subway without offering their seats to senior citizens. Youngsters approach him for a light while he's smoking with his fifty-something friends, a breach of hierarchy.
"They do things that would be unthinkable in my day," he says. "I'm afraid our society is really deteriorating."
A recent opinion poll by UNICEF suggests that Chung isn't the only one seeing a generation gap. Among 17 Asian nations and territories surveyed, young Koreans were found to hold the least respect for their elders, in a country where honoring one's seniors is a cultural cornerstone.
The results have sent politicians and the media into hand-wringing. "Holy Confucius! Korean Youths Ranked Last" blares one headline. "Filial Piety Not an Outdated Virtue," trumpets another, on an editorial bemoaning loss of respect.
UNICEF findings disputed
In response, some critics immediately discounted the findings on the grounds that UNICEF's primary expertise is with children. Others disputed the phrasing of the question -- it read, "Do you respect your elders?" -- arguing that respect in Korea has layers of meaning not captured in the poll.
Complaints about young people not listening, wearing funny clothes and acting like they're from another planet have echoed on every continent for eons. What's more, many American parents probably would love to have the disrespect problems South Korean parents complain about. The country is relatively free of crime, delinquency, youth violence and the widespread drug abuse seen in many Western societies.
Everything is relative, however, and for older Koreans accustomed to a strict hierarchy and great social cohesion, the slide is sharp, fast and very worrisome.
As policymakers debate the causes, everyone is pointing fingers. Teachers blame parents, parents blame the media, sociologists blame the Internet, the government blames Westernization. They all blame bad role models.
"Korea's value system is going through a very chaotic transition," says Maeng Hyong Kyu, national assemblyman with the opposition Grand National Party.
In a remote village in the Chiri Mountains that span the southern part of the Korean Peninsula, Principal Kim Pong Gon dresses each day in traditional Korean hanbok robe and gat hat in a quixotic bid to fight the destructive influences of 21st Century life.
His school, the Mong Yang Dang Cultivating House, teaches Confucian values to its 15 live-in students, who rise at 6 a.m. to study manners, Chinese script, Confucian precepts, respect for nature and traditional music.
Kim often is chided as an anachronism, the tutorial equivalent of a wagon-wheel maker. But he says Korea's ancient values are as pertinent today as they have ever been, a bulwark against a world obsessed with material gain.
`Building houses on sand'
Mainstream education has become an Indy 500 race for wealth and status, Kim says. "Today's young people are subject to waves of information without a proper moral foundation. They're building houses on sand."
Some young people, however, believe that the issue has been blown out of proportion. "Actually, I think younger people have a lot of respect for their parents," says Lee Seung Hyong, a 23-year-old college student.
Others say that what older Koreans view as disrespectful is really just a different way of doing things.
"I don't respect or disrespect elderly people," says Chung Hae Shik, 26, who works at an industrial company as part of his military service. "It's like we're speaking different languages. They're simply out of touch with today's world."
Scholars and social observers try to strike a more philosophical chord. Korea is in the middle of a wrenching transition, they say, rocked in a few years by rapid economic success, economic failure, dictatorship, incipient democracy, detente with North Korea and the quick spread of the Internet. The speed and depth of change are bound to widen the distance between generations.
"Korea has endured as much in the past 30 years as it did in the previous 1,000," says Lee Bu Young, vice president of the Grand National Party. "People have lost a lot, and many long for an idealized past."
Many predict that values long associated with traditional Korean Confucianism will disappear, including extended families, long-standing graveside rituals, village elder culture, inheritance through firstborn males and highly formal, honorific language. Others probably will remain, including compassion, basic rules of behavior and a sense of humanity essential to live in any society, they say.
Another poll weighs in
After the UNICEF findings created such a stir -- 20 percent of young Koreans surveyed said they had no respect for their elders, compared with 2 percent on average for the other East Asian nations -- the daily Joong Ang Ilbo newspaper weighed in with its own poll. The findings were somewhat more hopeful, but 49 percent still said there were few elders they respected, blaming changing social values, out-of-touch adults and their corrupt ways.
"Who is there to respect?" asks Kim Young Soo, a 27-year-old restaurant worker. "The president? Politicians? Lawyers? Teachers? Parents? They're all hypocrites. They preach Confucian values but turn around and have extramarital affairs with young women that undercut the family."
Even advocates of a return to a strict Confucian education system concede that adult society hasn't set a great example for younger people. Confucianism holds that those atop the hierarchy should earn respect, not demand it simply because they're more powerful. Yet decades of dictators ruled Korea without legitimacy. And the early years of democracy have been characterized more by scandal than great statesmanship.
"We haven't set a very good model for them," says S.T. Song, a 55-year-old businessman. "If the water upstream isn't clear, it won't be downstream either."
1. What is a generation gap?
2. Have you ever felt a generation gap with your friends?
3. How do you over come the generation gap?
4. When do you feel the generation gap the most?
5. What roll does music play in generation gaps?
6. Do you know a family where this is the case?
7. Do you think your generation's fight is similar to your parents generations fight?
8. Why do new generations frequently blame the last generation for many problems they are facing?
9. If you could give one important message to the next generation, what would it be?
10. Do you think you will experience a generation gap with your children?What are some differences in music, fashion, personality, mannerisms that are apparent when encountering a generation gap?
11. How does a generation gap affect interaction between two people?
12. What are some key signs that a generation gap is present?
13. Which changes in traditional values could contribute to a generation gap?
14. Have you found useful information in systems like astrology or the Enneagram? [personality]
15. What do you think when you see an old person?
16. Do you think older people are boring?
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